My Journey

My story: I used to be very insecure. When I was at school, I would sit and move so tensely, because I was afraid that people would judge me. I would sit with uncomfortable posture, just because I was afraid people would judge me. When I would go outside, I would constantly be afraid that people would look at me when the wind was messing up my hair, or when I’d stumble. I’d be afraid to ask people questions in fear of getting made fun of.

I am still a little insecure, but I have made so much progress. I realize that no one cares about you. You aren’t that special. Not everyone is watching your every move and judging you. Part of my progress comes from the fact that I live in New York City. In New York City, there’s so many crazy and weird people, that if you do something strange, no one will care.

What I did: To become less insecure, and more confident, you need to love yourself. You need to realize that no one knows you better than yourself, and so only you can judge yourself. For example, if you leave your house to take the trash out, and you wear boring clothes, as long as you know that you could look better, it doesn’t matter what other people think. Confidence is more attractive than looks. Personally, I neve leave the house in clothes that I wouldn’t want someone attractive to see me in, because you never know. I always leave the house expecting to see someone attractive.

You need to realize that the only person who’s opinion of you matters are those who know you. It doesn’t matter what some random person thinks about you, because they’ve only known you for five seconds. Furthermore, when someone close to me gives me some advice, or tells me how I can improve myself, I listen, because that person knows who I am, and I can trust their judgment.

Actionable steps:

1. Go out into your city or towns square, and talk to some random person. You can say literally anything, it doesn’t even have to be true, but just do it. This will help you realize that no one cares if you say something wrong.
2. Build yourself up. Start going to the gym, take pride in your work, and set and achieve manageable goals. If you build yourself up, and are confident in yourself, you realize your own value. Once you know your own value, you realize that it doesn’t matter what other people think of you.

If you complete these actionable steps, and you change your mindset, you will feel confident in yourself, and you will stop worrying about what other people think.

Thank you for reading, and I hope that this helps you. See you next time,

NYC Self Improvement.